I Ended Up Separated Because Of My Mid Life Crisis, How Do I Get My Spouse Back

eMost of the time, when I get correspondence about a spouse with a mid life crisis, it comes from the spouse who is watching the process. The spouse who is not having a mid life crisis is usually trying to cope and to keep the marriage intact, while juggling all kinds of problems beyond their control.

Occasionally though, I hear from the person who is having (or has already had) the mid life crisis and is alarmed at the problems it has caused. Many times, it has severely damaged the marriage and eroded the trust. The spouse who has gone through this can be ashamed, embarrassed, and confused about how to fix things.

They may say things like: “I am embarrassed by my behavior over the last year. And it has nearly ruined my marriage. My husband doesn’t trust me anymore. I think the whole problem started when I turned 45 and started to believe that I never really had a chance to have any real fun. I married my husband right out of high school. I had children shortly after that. I never went

Tips For A Newly Wed Groom To Adjust In A Kannada Family

cabThere was a time when people used to consider Kannada families as bit traditional. But now, you will see that even they have become quite forward. So, if you are a new groom and have got the girl from a Kannada family then you can stay assured that you would have good gelling up with them. Kannada matrimony has so many rituals and customs. Thus, if you are a happy go lucky person who does not like to be part of such rituals then you must tame your mind a bit. It would be important that you have to get used to a few rituals. This is because; it would make the elders in the family happy.

The Kannada brides are pretty forward

It is important that note that even though the elders in a Kannada family would be more of the people who would love traditions, but the girls are quite forward. They are kept like in the way they can be all rounder. They respect the elders and at the same time they can work along with you. So, if you are a

Saving Your Marriage Relationship

merYears ago, you took a vow in front of your family, friends, and God with your spouse. You likely held your spouse’s hands, looked in their eyes, and told them that you take them to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, and to love and to cherish from this day forward until death do you part. After you made your public commitment to your beloved, you likely sealed your love with a kiss. As soon as your lips touched, you heard the cheer of the crowd, and the pastor, priest, or government official pronounce you as man and wife. At that point you entered the sacred institution of marriage.

In that instance, your love was true and you likely believed you found your soul mate. As in most fairy tales, you thought that you would live with your loved one happily ever after. Over the next few months and years, your life continued and so did your spouse’s. You may have gone back to school, received a

First Steps To Save Your Marriage

nyHow do you go about trying to save your marriage?

For one, stop fighting with your spouse over stupid things.

Another step to save your marriage is stop using work and the kids as an excuse for having a horrible relationship.

Also, do at least one positive thing each day to make your marriage better.

Can you imagine how much better your marriage could be if you took these baby steps over the next 30 to 60 days?

Now, obviously changing your relationship from bad to good to great won’t happen overnight. But I assure you that it will never happen if you don’t start taking steps to save your marriage.

How about you start right now? Send your spouse a text message or email and simply say “I love you”. Nothing more and nothing less!

If you feel good after sending such a text you have just taken a baby step forward to save your marriage. Now, you do realize that in order to keep moving forward you can’t say I love you in a text message and call your spouse an idiot later in the day because he

How Do Work Schedules Affect the Home

homHow do work schedules affect the home? Where do we draw the line between our calling and sacrificing time with our family?

I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately. Harold’s dream is to get back into flying commercially after being away for the last 7 1/2 years. A big reason he left in the first place was because of low pay and an upgrade freeze. His student loans kept coming out of forbearance and amounting to the size of a mortgage payment. We couldn’t afford to make the payments. And as far as his work schedule went, it was variable; his trips would typically last anywhere from three to six days and then he would be home for two to four days.

Now that he is back in aviation, we’re going back to that variable schedule.

This type of schedule can be hard on marriages, whether or not children are involved. But I don’t believe the schedule is at fault when marriages fall apart.

There are certain things that come with any career. Certain expectations that are just part of doing business in that particular

Redefining Your Perception on Marriage

adSo many singles just hear that people are getting married and want to do same for the wrong reasons. They do not know what they are getting themselves into. The glamour of the wedding beclouds their judgement and the promise of a happy life ever after propels them to make decisions with their heads and not their hearts. No matter how many marital books you read or marriage seminars you attend, you can never be too prepared for marriage. There’s nothing like the real deal, so learn to manage your expectations so that you don’t get disappointed. Many singles think that they will be good marriage counselors because of the wealth of knowledge they garnered from books, only to get married and realize that it is easier to assess others than to be assessed. They soon discover the difference between literature and reality.

Many people have painted for themselves, a lovey-dovey picture about marriage portrayed by Rom-Com movies and Romance novels and this make singles fantasize and anticipate a perfect marriage. Romance is a good thing but just before you dive in, stop and

Which Steps Should You Follow

dfgHaving your spouse move back in after a trial separation is the goal that most of us are hoping for more than anything else. That is the day that is marked in red on your calendar. That is the day that is going to seem like Christmas morning and your birthday all rolled into one.

But as the day looms large, you can start to worry about it. Many of us are aware that this might be our one and only chance to reconcile with our husband. What if something goes wrong? What if him moving home ends up in disaster? Because of these worries, people sometimes want to break the process down into steps to make sure that they are doing everything that they possibly can to be successful.

Someone may ask this question: “are there any steps that I can take to ensure that my separated husband’s return home is seamless and successful? I have waited for this day for so long. And I truly do not want to mess things up and cause stress by overthinking it. But I can not help

Can Marriages Survive It

shI sometimes hear from folks who are reluctant to agree to a long amount time of away from their spouse. Often, the marriage has been struggling and they are afraid that the time apart is going to be more than the marriage can handle.

Regardless, often the spouse who is being asked to stay put wants to accompany their spouse because the idea of being separated for an extended period of time scares them. They are afraid that the physical separation is going to turn into a literal separation. Someone might say: “my husband has a long-term job offer in another state. I admit that it is a great opportunity. And I probably would not be as worried about it if our marriage was doing great. But it is not. We have been struggling for almost a year. I also feel that my husband would not be considering this position if our marriage was still thriving. Since he is considering it, I feel like he is trying to escape me and our marriage. He is telling me that he thinks that a separation will

5 Ways to Cope With a Sexless Marriage

veWhat is a sexless marriage? It is a marriage with little or no sexual activities. Experts describe that couples who are having sex 10 times or less in a year is considered living in a sexless marriage. Although it is best for couples to keep a healthy and active sex life, it is not uncommon for couples to live in marriage without sex. Can couples cope with a sexless marriage?

There are many reasons why a marriage becomes sexless. It can be caused by medical issues, couples became too busy with their careers and jobs, having children, exhaustion, lack of sex drive or desire, etc. If you decided to stay in a sexless marriage, no matter what the cause of the lack of sex in your marriage, coping with a sexless relationship needs some work.

Choosing to stay in a sexless marriage is a personal choice but it is worth saving your marriage. Can this kind of marriage work? It don’t work in every marriage but to others, yes, a sexless marriage works. There are couples who are in a sexless marriage for years and yet

Talk of Orgasm Does Not Necessarily Lead to More Sex

sxzIronically (because only men’s responsiveness declines with age) women are often more sexually active when younger. Once a woman has children she is much less motivated by sex. Women are more confident about admitting that intercourse does not cause orgasm as they age, by acquiring status or wealth or through education. Women today say they have orgasms during sex and yet they are less amenable than older generations.

Andrea Burri’s notes that ‘female sexual dysfunction’ (FSD) is increasing: “One of the diagnostic criteria for FSD is feeling distressed. But what causes the distress? Is it the condition itself, or is it what you think is expected of you and in turn, what you start expecting of yourself? The way sex is portrayed in the media and in films often provides us with a base of comparison that is not always realistic for the individual.” (2011)

For men, any lower body contact with an attractive partner is erotic and therefore, to varying degrees, emotionally fulfilling. Men perceive women to be ‘inhibited’ because they assume that women should naturally be aroused as men are by physical proximity

39 Magic Affirmations to Ramp Up Your Sex Life

c23Have you ever utilized the power of positive affirmations?

Some say you can reach any goal, including improving your sex life, with positive thinking. Though we believe some things are out of reach no matter what you do, positive affirmations can help you with what is within reach.

After years of empirical research, we believe all areas of life, including your sex life, are greatly impacted by your present and past life experiences. Your personal timing and destiny (the same thing as fate) reflects your past and present.

The good news is that although a lot in your life is predestined, you have free will to make the most of your destiny with your thoughts, within the boundaries of your fate.

If you’d like to improve your sex life, you can use affirmations to your advantage.

However, it’s helpful to first realize that thoughts are affected by beliefs, and everyone’s beliefs of sex are tainted by two major influences:

1) Subconscious past life memories of bad experiences with sex

2) Society’s oppressive view that sex, unless within a marriage, is dirty or wrong

Once you acknowledge these influences, they’re easier to overcome

7 Ways to Fix a Sexless Marriage and Get Your Sex Life Back on Track

xcSex is vital in every romantic relationship because it helps couples to stay connected with each other emotionally and physically. But what if sex leaves the bedroom or if couples rarely or have no sexual activities at all anymore? A sexless marriage is defined as a marriage where couples have little or no sexual activities with each other. A couple with less than 10 sexual intercourse in a year can also be considered in a sexless marriage. The absence of sexual intimacy in a marriage is not always bad, if both spouses honesty feel that they are satisfied and happy in their relationship even without an active sex life, then a sexless marriage is okay and works for them. But if the lack of physical intimacy in a marriage is not okay and makes a spouse feel unloved and unhappy, it is best to fix a sexless marriage as early as possible before it could lead to other marital problems.

At the beginning of marriage, couples usually cannot take their hands off each other and have sex as frequent as they can but sadly, couples

Women’s Need for Affection Drives Regular Relationship Sex

cwSex is so much more rewarding for women when they feel affection for their lover. In the early days a man is more motivated to show his appreciation for a lover by being affectionate. In asking (implicitly or explicitly) for sex a man is asking for a favour. A woman’s affectionate response gives him the confidence to initiate sex. As the affection dies, sex becomes a mechanical exercise for a woman and a man finds it increasingly awkward to suggest sex explicitly or to simply assume it’s on offer. So women’s need for affection drives regular sex within loving relationships.

Sex occurs much more easily in the early stages of a relationship because being affectionate with each other provides the most natural lead-in to sex. First a woman offers some affectionate interaction by touching or kissing her lover. Her lover communicates his desire by kissing back with passion, by touching the woman with an increased focus on the erogenous zones and by indicating his own arousal by pressing his groin against her body.

Some people suggest that couples who enjoy casual nudity are uninhibited. But

Some Men Expect Women to Make Sex “Exciting” for Them

dw2Some women approach sex with romantic illusions. They expect a lover to be so aroused by their body that he ‘sweeps them off their feet’ with his sexual passion. They may not accept the need to offer any more turn-ons.

Women’s ‘responses’ with a lover are driven by social attitudes. For example, in the past women were often expected NOT to respond to intercourse. Men considered it unseemly for a woman to cooperate with intercourse. Perhaps the idea that a woman might be getting something from the activity put pressure on a man to continue intercourse for longer than he could. This is yet more evidence that women’s responses with a lover involve conscious behaviours rather than spontaneous sexual responses. No one can easily suppress their natural responsiveness over long periods.

Films use sound effects to indicate a couple having sex off-screen: a regular banging (of a bed against a wall) and the woman’s vocal accompaniment. Such scenes may represent a turn-on for men but it seems to me that men enjoy making female arousal into a tasteless joke. Male fantasies put tremendous pressure on women

My Wife Is Initiating Sex and I Don’t Know About It

233Initiating Sex series – My wife is initiating sex and I don’t know about it… That’s right fellas your wife is initiating sex and more often than you think. Pay closer attention and give her some credit. If this were a men’s only article, I would literally write 2 or 3 killer opening sentences and before getting right to the point. If you want her to get the message you have got chill out when it seems like I am favoring the female perspective. I am not biased at all and the goal here is for us all to receive and share in efforts to learn from each other.

Every man wants his wife to initiate sex sometimes…

The thing is she might not be doing it or saying it the way that you have desired to receive it but trust me often times she is actually the one who did initiated it… You just took the credit. What husband doesn’t want to feel like when he’s having sex with his wife that she actually wants to have sex with him? “Ladies, hear me out,

I Love How You Look When You Wear … to Bed!

saWell I know I just got about 60 million (number of married men in the US) high fives but fellas before you celebrate we have a little work to do ourselves and trust me I will get into it in a few.

Now ladies before you beat me up about the initial title this is not a bashing this is me doing my best at bringing some comic relief to a situation that is serving as an intimacy assassinator in lots of households.

I only share because I am 100% committed to helping us all reach optimal levels of intimacy in our individual marriages.

Yes I also know that I just set myself up for a battle.

I haven’t even completed my thoughts towards this article and I know my darling wife JeanMarie has already drafted a retaliation post. LOL (I love you honey!)

Wives please listen very carefully. What your husband sees at home and in the bedroom is vital to taking care of his physical intimacy needs. That doesn’t in anyway take away from what you need at all. Keep in mind that you as his wife

Why Women Should Use The Best Organic Supplements For Their Sexual Health

dswIt is very important for women to pay attention to their sexual health. This is because their reproductive organs are vital parts of their body. Failure to care for these organs can cause a lot of pain and health issues. In order to fix this, women need to know about the best treatment methods and how they can benefit from them.

Nowadays, there are many products on the market that promise to get rid of many sexual issues. However, it is important to think twice before buying any product. This is because most of these medicines are full of chemicals that can cause more harm than good. The reason for this is that some women are allergic to certain chemicals in such products. The result of this is that, they begin to suffer from nasty side effects when they use certain products.

If you are wondering what to do in this case, then keep reading. We have an all-natural option for you in the form of organic herbal supplements. The best organic herbal supplements are not only free from chemicals but they have no side

Diabetes and Sexual Problem How to Fix It

dsaaWhat’s going on with blood sugar levels could have a huge effect on one’s sex drive, and is often the cause of sexual problems. As a person suffering from diabetes, there could be a number of issues that you must learn how to fix or cope up with just to prevent your libido from getting affected. Fortunately, by knowing how to cope up with these symptoms related to diabetes, you could still manage to improve your sexual satisfaction. Here’s how:

1. Monitor Your pH Level

Diabetes means there would always be a sudden increase in the blood sugar levels and this could negatively affect the pH levels of the vagina, and would also increase the risks of vaginal infections. Also, when the pH level becomes acidic, the lactobacilli in the vagina wouldn’t be able to survive, and this would lead to bacteria growth, such as bacterial vaginosis as well as yeast infections. One of the best ways to keep it balanced is through the use of over-the-counter vaginal gel at least twice a week. You can also try using RepHresh, which is an FDA-approved treatment

Don’t Let the Sexual Disorders Crash Your Married Life

dsaDealing with sexual problems is not that frustrating as some people think. Everyone faces some or the other kind of problems in life. Some are physiological, and some are purely psychological. Meeting an expert sexologist is an easy and practical way of treating the problem. Some people think that there are no preventive steps for sexual disorders, but it is not true. It is possible to avoid them by keeping the body fit and healthy. Sexual dysfunction is a result of improper lifestyle, incorrect diet routine, and over indulgence in sex. A sexologist goes to the root of it by probing into the problem.

Sexual disorders like weak erection, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are very disturbing problems for men. If these problems are not addressed in time, you may suffer from relationship issues and low self-esteem. Reasons for sexual weakness in men include lack of testosterone, aging, diabetes, depression, excessive cigarette smoking and unresolved issues between couples, excessive alcohol intake, stress, tiredness, low libido, anxiety and low endurance. You may find a lot of products in the market to cure sexual weakness problem

Bringing Variety of Situation and Technique to Intercourse

23Although intercourse provides little internal sensation, a woman feels some external pressure. When a man thrusts deeply the base of his penis may thump or brush against her vulva (the clitoris and labia) and perineum (towards the anus). She may enjoy the eroticism of being dominated (from the whole body contact and his weight) and the psychological satisfaction of being penetrated (from knowing that his penis is deep inside her body).

‘Quickies’ often involve a standing position. The woman can support herself against an object (a tree, a table or the side of the shower) or lean over at 90 degrees and rest face down. When combined with rear entry, quickies allow the man to focus on the satisfaction of ejaculating into the woman’s vagina. If a woman usually moves her hips it is pleasant occasionally to have the excuse to do absolutely nothing and let the man do all the work!

For men sexual opportunities seem precious. So they approach sex with a sense of urgency and anxiety. A man holds his erect penis between his lover’s legs to find the entrance to her